I picked up this book after reading Carry On, Warrior at the start of the year. While I found her first book to be heavily rooted in Christianity, something I was admittedly not crazy about, I was drawn to Glennon’s voice.
I actually met Glennon Doyle at Blissdom Canada 2013 in Toronto. She was on a panel that was discussing Social Etiquette and online bullying with Glen Canning the father of Rehtaeh Parsons. I remember the session being powerful and very raw. I don’t remember specifics of what was discussed, but I remember being very moved by it.
Afterwards, Glennon was signing copies of Carry On, Warrior. I met her and spoke with her briefly. I didn’t know much about her book, so I did not get a copy. In retrospect, I wish I had purchased a signed copy of the book.
It was interesting reading Love Warrior, because I met her during the time that many of the things she wrote about in this book were happening. I met her while she was in the process of finding herself. Yet, she never seemed anything but confident and comfortable in her own skin.
When I started reading this book I thought it was about saving her marriage, which admittedly seemed strange, because I knew she was now divorced and remarried. I thought it was going to be a religious book about how to save a messed up marriage. I thought it was going to be a love story, as the title suggests.
This book is about feminism, equality and strength. It is about courage and confidence and honesty. My favorite passage from the book is this one, in which Glennon is explaining what sexy means to her two daughters.
“I think sexy is a grown-up word to describe a person who is confident that she is already exactly who she was made to be. A sexy woman knows herself and likes the way she looks, thinks and feels. She doesn’t try to change to match anybody else. She’s a good friend to herself – kind and patient. And she knows how to use her words to tell people she trusts about what’s going on inside of her – her fears and anger, love, dreams, mistakes and needs. When she is angry, she expresses her anger in healthy ways. When she’s joyful, she does the same thing. She doesn’t hide her true self because she is not ashamed. She knows she’s just human…”
It was a love story, but not about marriage. Her marriage is what threads the story together, but the book is about the author learning to love herself. It is about finding out who she is and what she stands for. It is about saving herself and becoming comfortable in her own skin. It is about slaying her demons, and learning to be present in the moment. It is a book about self-love.