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39 – Never Judge A Book By Its Cover

One of the biggest mistakes I have made in the past, is to judge people by the first impression I have of them. Let’s be honest, it is hard not to.

Imagine a guy at a party drunk as a skunk. He’s drinking his face off, slurring his words and can barely stand straight. He is fun, but over the top. What would your first impression be? Would you avoid him at all costs?

Now picture this. You meet a girl at an event. You have things in common, but she is loud, a little obnoxious and just has to be right. She also argues her point of view to death. What would you think of her? Would you meet her for coffee?

In a really short period of time, it is easy to pass judgement on someone you don’t know, based on their behaviour. That first impression comes from our perception of what we see in that moment.

Maybe the drunk guy has had a really crappy day, for any number of reasons. He has been drinking to lighten his mood and feel a little better. Perhaps the girl has a lot on her plate. Family and finances may be eating away at her, and she needs to feel that she is right about something.

My first impressions were no different then yours. In the past, I would have trusted my gut and shut down. The familiar comfort of my hard shell used to feel a lot safer than opening up and giving someone a chance.

Life is funny though. As we get older we start to look at everything differently. We see things with our experience, and our perception changes. Suddenly we are able to relate to that guy and that girl. We learn to let those first impressions go.

For me, that guy and that girl have both become good friends. The kind of friends I know I can lean on if I need something. That would have never happened if I trusted my initial feelings about them. I would have never spoken to either of them again.

It’s certainly cliche, but still very true.

Never judge a book by its cover.

(Unless it is a real book. If it is a real book, judge away. Some of my favorite books are ones I chose because the I really loved the cover art.)

I am counting down the days until my 40th birthday with 40 Things.

40 – It Is Important To Have A Creative Outlet

Once upon a time, I had a blog.  Two of them in fact.

The first one was called Little Moments. I set out to create a photoblog. Through it I learned a lot about blogging, websites and even some coding. After 2 years, I realized that there was something missing from the site though. ME. I wanted it to convey who I was, not just showcase my pictures.

So naturally, next came I started it in 2010, and I blogged a lot. Sometimes daily. I upgraded the site a few times, tried different themes and learned as much as I could about what I was doing. It was something I was very proud of.

I shared pictures and stories. Sometimes my pictures alone were enough to tell the stories. I vented and shared my pain. I wrote about happy times, vacation times and exciting times. My blog was about me, and for me. It was my creative outlet.

Then life got busier. My job changed, my life changed, my boys were growing up and creating havoc at times, and I decided running and racing was something I needed to do. In addition to all of this, my laptop was getting old, and made the entire process of blogging – from writing to editing pictures – very frustrating. I no longer had extra time or even will to keep it up.

I tried to fill the void with Instagram (and Twitter and Facebook). While they are all great places to microblog, and very visual, I never found a suitable replacement.

So, here we are – 2.0. A new look and a completely fresh start. Blank pages ready to be filled with photos, writing and creativity.

I am counting down the days until my 40th birthday with 40 Things.